This is the continuation of the series of articles on “Relationship Rescue.” In the previous article we took the beginning look at what can cause a relationship breakup and the reaction that a lot of people have to what they see as their relationship being in trouble. In the following article we will take a look at some of the reasons a relationship can dissolve and the way we can possibly mend them.
The Honeymoon’s Over
New relationships can be exhilarating. You’re both feeling the rush of new feelings and enjoying discovering little bits about each other. You can’t keep your hands off each other and it seems there’s never enough time to talk because there’s just so much urgency on the physical side. The physical and sexual of the relationship seems amazing and you both look forward to the next time you can see each other again.However, every relationship moves through several stages. The honeymoon inevitably ends and the intense physical attraction and massive rush of adrenaline-fueled infatuation settles down. You’re left with the more comfortable second stage of a relationship.
No matter how well the two of you got along when you first met, when the honeymoon phase ends, you need more than just sexual attraction to hold the relationship together. If the bonds of friendship and trust haven’t formed before this phase ends, you could find your relationship drifting apart through no fault of anybody’s. While you might initially have been attracted to your partner physically and it may have felt incredibly intense at the time, this is usually not a strong enough emotion to hold a relationship together once those intense feelings fade into a comfortable acceptance.
Mending the Rift
If you know you’re in the honeymoon phase of a relationship and you feel the routine settling down to something more comfortable, it’s time to work on those communication skills.
Building a bond that goes deeper than physical attraction is about mutual trust and respect. Having common goals and interests will also go a long way to forging a strong bond that can stand the test of time. It’s important to build a solid foundation based on communication so that you’ll have plenty to relate to each other once the initial honeymoon begins to wane. Of course, while those intense physical feelings are running so strong, remember to enjoy them. Don’t slow things down too soon and get all deep and meaningful. Let the honeymoon phase happen, but keep it in the back of your mind that it’s not always the strongest foundation to base a long-term future.
